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“My husband and I (both 31) have lived together for 12 years, been married for five,” Jackie shared to Reddit about her real life situation.
“We’re a long-standing relationship, we have a lot of fun together, and we mutually respect one another both as friends and as partners.”
Jackie added: “We’ve done our periods of counselling, spend time with family, and travel together. I think he’s one of the few good ones.
“Unfortunately, over the years, I’ve grown a lot and have to admit to myself that I’m no longer attracted to my husband.”
The bedroom antics are lacklustre, to say the least, Jackie doesn’t find him sexually attractive anymore, and admitted: “I’m just not into him.”
Confessing her innermost thoughts to the Reddit community, Jackie shared: “I don’t know that I still love him.”
Reflecting on their relationship, Jackie feels as though she is “so different now” to who she was when they first met.
“He never grew up,” Jackie said, adding that he doesn’t help around the house “without childlike direction”.
Not only that, it would seem that Vic has become too comfortable and isn’t making an effort with himself.
“At this point I have to accept that he won’t be going to the gym, getting more sleep, maintaining regular haircuts, or regularly shaving,” said Jackie.
“No matter how he promises, it isn’t going to happen… this isn’t the first time I’ve questioned my marriage, or daydreamed of being alone.”
Jackie admitted that, at times, she feels “disgusted” by Vik, which makes her feel “terrible”.
“Something has to break,” Jackie stated. “He’s an amazing friend… [but] he’s not MY husband material.”
One Reddit user pointed out how Vic’s unwillingness to help out around the house without being told, as if he were a child, would kill the attraction.
“That’s why you have no interest in the bedroom. Having a spouse act like a child is a huge turnoff,” SJoyD remarked.
Another, fluffy_hamsterr, said: “That’s unfortunate but it’s probably pretty common in long-term relationships that span your 20s.”
After reading through the long line of comments, Jackie filed for divorce from Vic. “It’s an amicable divorce,” noted Jackie. “And I’m so grateful for the support on this post.”
*Names have been changed.